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Are you a perfectionist? If not, fine with it. Because
perfectionism is one of the most common reasons why people give up in life.
Perfectionism is when you feel like something has to be done perfectly in order
for you to feel satisfied. It’s holding yourself back because you’re afraid of
what others think or what others might think of you if you let go of your
standards. It can be tricky to spot perfectionism because it doesn’t always
involve an in-your-face level of performance anxiety, like, “I have to be
perfect so no one else can step on my position!” It might just be that
something isn’t quite right within yourself. You see it when other people
aren’t looking or when the situation allows for it. Perhaps there is some
specific skill that needs work? Or perhaps there is a part of your personality
that keeps getting in the way and stops you from being who you want to be? The
following are some tips that can help make sure that you succeed no matter
what:
Take a break
Even if you’re not a perfectionist, sometimes you need a
break from it all. No, you don’t have to take a month off from work or cancel
your weekends. Take a break when you need it and give yourself permission to do
what you need to do when you need it. When you have a goal you’re happy with
and you know you can reach it, then you have a much better chance of success.
Set realistic goals
Are you aiming for the stars or are you realistic enough to
know that you can’t possibly reach those heights for the rest of your life? If
you think about it, though, you have to realize that even the stars aren’t
perfect, so it’s okay to set goals that are a little less than you want to
achieve. If you always set grandiose goals, you’re only going to feel
frustrated and stuck. You need to set smaller doses of frustration instead, so
you can focus on what you need to do next and have a better chance of success.
Learn how to delegate
If you have a skill that you need to learn or a task that
needs doing and you don’t feel like you can do it by yourself, try delegating
it. With some practice, you can get pretty good at delegating tasks, and you’ll
be surprised how much easier it is to do what you need when someone else is
around to help. One of the best things about delegating is that you get a
chance to show what you’re capable of, and the rest of the team can learn from
your example.
Network, network, network
Last but not least, and perhaps the most important thing you
can do to help yourself succeed in life is to network. We’re not talking about
the kind of network where you sit around talking to strangers at an event.
We’re talking about the networking that happens in your own community, your own
company, and with other teams and individuals that you trust. Even if you think
you don’t have the skills to leverage your connections and skills to their full
potential, you do. People are constantly looking for opportunities to learn
from other people, and you can use that to your advantage. Whether it’s with
someone from your company or with a colleague from a different department,
organization, or school, networking can help you grow as a person and gain new
skills.
Conclusion
Perfectionism is a huge reason why people give up in life.
It can be hard to spot because it doesn’t always involve an in-your-face level
of performance anxiety, like, “I have to be perfect so no one else can step on
my position!” It might just be that something isn’t quite right within
yourself. You see it when other people aren’t looking or when the situation
allows for it. Perhaps there is some specific skill that needs work? Or perhaps
there is a part of your personality that keeps getting in the way and stops you
from being who you want to be? The following are some tips that can help make
sure that you succeed no matter what: